Lauren.. u're driving me nuts. what is going to happen to my marriage??

It's 2am in Singapore and I should definitely be sleeping as I have a client appointment in 10 hours at home and I haven't prepared anything.

I can't sleep cuz' my head is full of the following:

Husband & I have just finished what seemed like a holiday in Melbourne (though it definitely didn't feel like that for neither of us). Situation: no maid (yes, we're used to a maid Mon - Fri 8am - 3pm). Hours outside of this, I will take care of my daughter. So, we fly to Melbourne, the 3 of us (husband, wife & baby who is 10 months old). Nearing the end of the 10day trip, husband tells me: "dear, we are not doing this a 2nd time. it is not a holiday. she (meaning my daughter) refuses to give me a break!!!!: 

For this who are don't know, i run my own business  - i am able to take days off and be at home (mainly tues & thurs) to bring her to classes or stay at home and be with her. otherwise, i'm in the office. on mon, wed, fri, i see my daughter only from 6pm onwards. on Fri though, my husband and i try to have a couple's night whenever we can. 

so, my question is: my mother (who is living i melbourne) says that we're spoilt (as parents), as we have a maid to help us take care of lauren. hence, we should be not be complaining, no matter what.

frankly i find it difficult to keep a marital relationship alive with a kid (although i know that with only 1, i should still be able to keep it together!! but i find it difficult!!).. Any thoughts anyone? With only 1, she is already very 'clingy'. she can walk/run already at 10 months. so the moment i place her on the floor with her 2 feet, she starts whining. I can't even straighten my back after placing her on the floor, before she starts whining. It's crazy!